What am I doing wrong???

Took Ben to nursery, hubby came home to take him as we understood it to be a storytime thing to take Ben to. when we got there we saw everyone was going home and leaving their kids so we left and hubby went back to work.

I went back to get him and when I said we were going he screamed at the top of his voice but followed me, the nursery nurse said bye and shut the clasroom door. Then he ran past me up towards the headmistress' office and into a bathroom, I said we were going and he was screaming at the top of his voice, the head mistress came out to try and help me get him to leave, but he just screamed and was hitting me etc. In the end, nearly in tears I said I was leaving and he eventually followed me. I cried all the way home and am still crying now.

I rang my hubby who said 'hes not the first kid to do it'.... yeah, that helps me!
I was going to ring the hv but they're no help.
What am I doing wrong????

oh hu, giving you a massive hug. you are not doing anything wrong, this age is so difficult. i have "battles" with seren on a daily basis. one thing that is working for me is to try and think like a toddler nso when I am getting exasperated because Seren wants a drink but I am feeding Cally, me saying "in a min" gets me nowhere, she wants it then and there so instead I change the subject and will do somethig like sing etc which takes her mind of it tiull I can get her the drink. If I want her to leave somewhere where she is having fun I give her advance warning (perhaps his keyworkers could do this at school) and then she says bye bye to everyone and then she is ready to go. It doesn't always work but it helped a bit as Seren hates being rushed along.Perhaps Ben doesn't want to leave as he is having fun, so tell him what fun he will be havingn at home, i.e. "when you get home Ben we could do...."

the main thing to remember is that he is pushing boundaries, he is not doing this to get at you or to make you feel bad, he is too young for that. So try not to take it personally (again easier said then done)

the main thing to remember is that he is pushing boundaries, he is not doing this to get at you or to make you feel bad, he is too young for that. So try not to take it personally (again easier said then done)

Thats exactly it, its very normal for his age.

Oh hun :aww:

Oh hun :aww: :aww: :aww: :aww: :aww:

And another thing to remember is he must have enjoyed his stay

kay wrote:And another thing to remember is he must have enjoyed his stay

I agree. Another way of looking at it is that he is one secure and independent little man. Which is a very good thing. He is secure in the knowledge that you are there when he needs him, so he is very independent and happy to go explore the world.

You've not done anything wrong, instead you are doing everything right.

He's perfectly normal gem, some days he'll not want to leave, others he'll not want you to go at all. Don't worry and keep up the good work.

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