MIL.....
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toriaaaaTRASH
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MIL.....
I hope this is in the correct section.....
My MIL thinks I feed DD too much
She keeps making little comments indirectly.....she actually says stuff to Hebe (!) which is clearly for my 'benefit'.
Over Christmas (she was staying with us) she would say 'Oh you're feeding her again??' or (to baby if she was holding her as she started to 'twitter') 'Oh you cant be hungry can you, sometimes you cry just 'because'....' and when I took her off of her and immediately begin to nurse her she says 'Is she really feeding again?' Then she'll say 'No wonder my babies cried so much - everytime she starts you feed her!' Erm....yeah!
When she had DH and SIL the 'rules' were that you fed your baby for 10 mins either side burped them then you didnt feed them for another 3 or 4 hrs, no matter what.
How can I help her understand what I'm doing or do I just think stuff it!? I know this is the start of things to come as far as her opinions.....:icondoh:
My MIL thinks I feed DD too much
She keeps making little comments indirectly.....she actually says stuff to Hebe (!) which is clearly for my 'benefit'.
Over Christmas (she was staying with us) she would say 'Oh you're feeding her again??' or (to baby if she was holding her as she started to 'twitter') 'Oh you cant be hungry can you, sometimes you cry just 'because'....' and when I took her off of her and immediately begin to nurse her she says 'Is she really feeding again?' Then she'll say 'No wonder my babies cried so much - everytime she starts you feed her!' Erm....yeah!
When she had DH and SIL the 'rules' were that you fed your baby for 10 mins either side burped them then you didnt feed them for another 3 or 4 hrs, no matter what.
How can I help her understand what I'm doing or do I just think stuff it!? I know this is the start of things to come as far as her opinions.....:icondoh:
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Re: MIL.....
Thats all I do is laugh.
They think they know when they really do not!
Feeding on demand is the best thing you can do.
:aww: Id say stuff it, but thats me.
I used to say things but in the end I gave up as some people are just so stuck in the 1800s that there is no hope
They think they know when they really do not!
Feeding on demand is the best thing you can do.
:aww: Id say stuff it, but thats me.
I used to say things but in the end I gave up as some people are just so stuck in the 1800s that there is no hope
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My Nan is actually the worst. I always get "wouldn't she prefer a dummy?"
toriaaaaTRASH- Number of posts : 124
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toriaaaaTRASH wrote:My Nan is actually the worst. I always get "wouldn't she prefer a dummy?"
We got that too!
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i get that to but i know my baby and know what his crys mean. ignore her x
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I've heard it all do from mil and hubbys gran....'she cant still be hungry' 'shes full of wind thats why shes crying she doesnt need feeding again' 'she's got colic'...blah blah blah.
Everytime i was likewell actually :boob: are less likely to have colic, and no she hasnt got wind, and yeah she does want feeding. The thing is, they never come to see my baby so especially when she was a little baby and we had gone to his parents or grandparents and she didnt no people she wanted to feed more, espaicially for comfort. I tried to tell them that too. But the next time it would be the same questions so i gave up
Everytime i was likewell actually :boob: are less likely to have colic, and no she hasnt got wind, and yeah she does want feeding. The thing is, they never come to see my baby so especially when she was a little baby and we had gone to his parents or grandparents and she didnt no people she wanted to feed more, espaicially for comfort. I tried to tell them that too. But the next time it would be the same questions so i gave up
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OMG the 'wind' one.....:icondoh: 'Thats a bit of trapped wind...listen to all the noise she makes when you feed her...she's gulping a load of wind down coz she full and doesnt need feeding....'
:wm: YAWN!!!
:wm: YAWN!!!
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Yes well my MIL insists that there is no nutritional benefit to breastfeeding a child beyond 6 months... oh and apparently the only reason I bf'd lil miss is because of my own psychological benefit and I'm mentally harming her..
Shes also reluctant to give any expressed milk to lil miss if she is caring for her and I'm working
Shes also reluctant to give any expressed milk to lil miss if she is caring for her and I'm working
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OMG!!!!!!!!!!
Mervs Mum- Number of posts : 221
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Whats worse is when she said that to me I was like and didn't say a word... I'm such an idiot. Its caused many an argument between DH and I...
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