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Biting
Rhianna has started biting us. She used to do it when she was hungry, she couldn't tell me so she'd bite me. I stopped that by leaving little pots of fruit bun around, when she was hungry she'd bring me the pot.
But now she does it because she thinks its funny. Hubby shouts NO but he says no for lots of things, sometimes in a joking way, so it just makes her laugh more. I say no thats not nice we dont bite people it hurts, and put her on the floor, but that has no effect either. I'm not against smacking, but I think she's too young to be smacked, the other babies her age that get smacked still do what their not supposed to do, it doesn't work on them.
Anyone had this problem, any suggestions?
But now she does it because she thinks its funny. Hubby shouts NO but he says no for lots of things, sometimes in a joking way, so it just makes her laugh more. I say no thats not nice we dont bite people it hurts, and put her on the floor, but that has no effect either. I'm not against smacking, but I think she's too young to be smacked, the other babies her age that get smacked still do what their not supposed to do, it doesn't work on them.
Anyone had this problem, any suggestions?
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Re: Biting
DR Sears has few great tips for disciplining bothersome behavoiur and he is an advocate for gentle parenting.
You might find this helpful also:
Biting
Hitting and Biting
Saying NO!
HTH
You might find this helpful also:
Biting
Hitting and Biting
Saying NO!
HTH
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Oh, and did you try time outs already?
Setting limits and time outs form brilliant dr Sears again
Setting limits and time outs form brilliant dr Sears again
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Thanks, those were very good links, I think the dr sears ones made more sense. I'm going to try the suggestion of keeping an eye on when she bites, it seems to be in the evening when she's tired. We've recently switched her bedtime routine, maybe thats caused more problems than I thought.
I'm not a fan of timeouts, or called love withholding in the book I'm reading at the mo, unconditional parenting, but his suggestion of having a time out on your lap seems a good compromise, just not in this situation as she'd just bite my shoulder or arm.
Thanks for replying
I'm not a fan of timeouts, or called love withholding in the book I'm reading at the mo, unconditional parenting, but his suggestion of having a time out on your lap seems a good compromise, just not in this situation as she'd just bite my shoulder or arm.
Thanks for replying
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Jamie started biting at 15 months - and it is a very difficult age to try and 'discipline' them.
I found that the only thing i could do was take him away from the situation, and we would sit with him on my knee. I would briefly explain what he did, and why it was wrong, and sit there for a couple of minutes with him quietly.
I dont know if it worked or was coincidence, but he only did it a few times and stopped.
I had comments from people to smack or bite back - but at this age it is too young in my opinion.
I found that the only thing i could do was take him away from the situation, and we would sit with him on my knee. I would briefly explain what he did, and why it was wrong, and sit there for a couple of minutes with him quietly.
I dont know if it worked or was coincidence, but he only did it a few times and stopped.
I had comments from people to smack or bite back - but at this age it is too young in my opinion.
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I agree totally it is a bit young to start doing it back although i did use this tactic with one of my boys but they were quite a bit older at the time can't remeber exactly how old but know they were at nursery so must have been 3 or above. He only bit me once and when i bit him back he never did it again. At this age though i think it is better to try and establish what triggers this behaviour/response and try distraction techniques. Like you say time out on your knee and maybe a simple explanation as to why biting is wrong and that it upsets you when she bites.Hope you manage to sort it soon.
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