I think I need to perform an exorcism

Olivia is a very head strong little girl, which im sure im to blame for a part of it
She is 3 going on 13 and seems to have pmt but without a period.

Her tantrams the last few weeks have been awful, almost demonic likes shes possesed! and im not exaggerating either!

I have been ignoring it when she starts as im not a sit on the naughty step mum (she wouldn't anyway )
When shes calmed down, shes nice as pie, has a little cry and tells me why shes upset with me (always me )

Do you think ignoring her is the best way? it seems to calm her the quickest, I have got to breaking point a few times though and shouted which inevitably ends up with the whole tantram being far worse than it was in the first place!


I think she is like this because OH has a new job, whereas he would be home working and she missis him, I just hope this calms down

I had this with Jamie, and a few mums I have spoken to have had similar things with an eldest child.
I find Jamie is the most loveable boy, but when he is in one, he is in one! There is no middle ground with him - he is perfect or evil, and sometimes it really difficult to handle, although over time he has got better - i find him easier to deal with now he is older.

I think a lot comes from them being intelligent children, and also - please dont take this wrong, im speaking from experience! - you learn from experience, and i personally feel you become a much better parent 2nd time round, and learn signs to look for and are able to nip things in the bud earlier.

No I understand what you mean.

Thanks Kay

I've got one of them too and often wonder why ovens were not made bigger

Lil miss is pure evil at times. She is completely different to what T was like at this age. T was a very placid little girl who was also very unsure of herself. Lil miss is head strong, intelligent and confident. My mother advocates leaving her to be when she is having a tantrum in a shop, but I know that she will run off and she KNOWS I will come after her. I put this down to the very secure relationship she has gotten from being breastfed for so long and the amount of trust she has in me.

However, I do enact time outs. Not sitting on the steps as we have none, but... time away from the situation that has gotten her so angry and violent in the first place.

Also I find that some very bright children have trouble expressing themselves as their thoughts often exceed their verbal and emotional skills. So the tantrums tend to be pure fustration.

I know that lil miss often thinks that I don't understand her. I do, I just say no...but I often find, bending down to her level and reiterating what she wants to her, and then saying NO you can't have it because of xyz often helps. She still throws her I want paddy, but I can then say, you won't be having that and if you continue with this, you will also have a time out.. She normally calms down...or puts herself into time out.

Often I stay with her during time out and speak to her about what she has done. This is also very useful.

Thanks

I have been doing some of what you said already. We sit down and talk about why she acted they way she did and will tell me in detail why it is shes upset.

I walk away when she gets too bad and she usually stays in the room and has a paddy, I tell her I wont talk to her until she calms down.

When she has she tells me shes calm now and would like to talk.

I agree I think Olivia is just like you LO x

hmmm sounds familar, my daughter is like this i think ignoring her is a good idea, i have tried the shouting, putting in time out etc... i don't think it works much weill it doesn't Emma we have just started getting her to write lines lol an so far it's working but then again Emma is 6 so older than your daughter i think your doing the right thing hun xxxx

Yeah ignoring the tantrum atm seems to work, so I think I will stick with it.

It all starts as soon as OH goes to work