Its time to stop......

You've probably seen that i am sleep training Corey using the 'No cry sleep solution', and this is going well so far.
But now i feel i need to stop breastfeeding, for a couple of reasons.
Firstly, Those that knew me when i was expecting Corey - you know how bad my pregnancies are! and if i end up in hospital again, i dont want the added worry of Corey screaming for me at home and having to go cold turkey no boobies.
second, My boobs are killing me, and its really irritating me now - especially as he isnt taking much milk, just more liking having my nipple in his mouth!

So, he isnt feeding in the day at all now. He will ask once or twice, but i manage to distract him. He has been having for the last 3 or 4 nights a small feed before going up to bed. Generally i can settle him in the night if he wakes by using his bedtime routine, but on his 2nd waking I have 'given in' and given him a little breastfeed before putting him back down. Sometimes he will have a waking up feed, sometimes not. so that is maximum of 3 feeds, all around nighttime.
I dont want to be harsh by stopping his feeds, as he does still seem to want the comfort of it, but to be honest, i am at a place where it has become a neccessity, and i dont want to get any more frustrated with it all.
I am going to try not to give him any unless it becomes dire, but then i dont want him screaming for it either. I also dont want to break the better sleep routine i have created - i feel that if i give him the boob, he will think its still ok to wake up for it. I dont mind keeing up a pre-bed feed for a little while to ease him out of it, but im wondering whether it would be better all round if i just try and stop full stop?

I neeeeeed and at the moment i am a little and , even tho the sleep is gradually improving!!

No advice, just wanted to give you a

It sounds like you are both doing wonderfully well. xxx

Oh Kay

I can understand your feelings, I know I haven't experienced it myself but I have read a lot about bfing and pregnancy and what you are experiencing is very normal.

I think sometimes it can be the bodies way of telling you what you feel about stopping is right as a lot of women get similar feelings, eg sore nipples and the extra tierdness but weaning from the breast is not something they would consider. The other set of women have very similar feeling to you and wean slowy and very succesfully and both mother and child are totaly happy with that and its ended up being of benefit.

I am not for one moment advising that you should, but I do believe you should follow your feelings on this and trust yourself.

Although when the hormones settle a little around 12 weeks when the placenta takes over your feeling may change, I think you should just go with the flow Kay and if you find you are weaning him then go with that.

I wouldn't suggest stopping cold turkey but that is upto you, you know your son and you know him better than anyone

Thanks girls

well i tried something a little different last night.
I followed his new bed routine, but I gave him a drink of warm cows milk as he was having his story (7.30 - 8pm). He drank it all and really enjoyed it, then snuggled down and went straight to sleep with no boobies!
He woke slightly at 3am, but was more fidgeting and calling me in his sleep, so i got up, tucked him back in and he went right back to sleep til 5.30 am!!!!

He has NEVER slept this long before! (8 - 5.30!)
He was quite tetchy when he woke so i sat on his bed and gave him a booby feed and a cuddle, and he settled right back down straight away until 7.30.
so that is one booby feed in 24 hours.

I feel so much better, even if its just for a nights sleep!! anyway, i am going to carry on with this, and offer him cows milk when he indicates he wants booby, but still allow him a feed if he wont settle in the night.
I know it could have been coincidence, but im hoping this is the start of a better routine for us both! And i also think, if he will happily go off with milk at bedtime, and go for that stretch, if i did have a night in hospital, he could manage (even tho that should be a long way off yet!!)

One of my worries was the nipple stimulation if i carried on feeding, as i went into labour at 32 weeks with Corey, and they are unable to give drugs to stop it becuase of the palpitations.

That sounds really positive Kay, I hope it continues.

Yes they do say you should be caustious, although it pretty much the same a the after effect of an orgasm, the contractions are very similar but if you to stop sex then I guess bfing would be questioned then too if your womb was iritable.

I was going to suggest warming up some milk for him and trying that. I know how you feel though. Lil miss is an agressive feeder and she tends to just sit with the nipple in her mouth most of the time which is really irritating. When she feeds its not too bad, but she doesn't do that, that often, maybe 3/5 times a day? If I was pregnant though I'd probably just give up.

Saying that I'm going away in February so I am hoping that 4 day's will stop her from feeding. She doesn't seem to require me as such, its more of a mummy cuddle for her now.

maybe thats why i was in hospital so much with contractions last time.....

kay wrote:maybe thats why i was in hospital so much with contractions last time.....

err kay!

Well when I was in latent labour (alyhough wasn't totaly aware) I couldn't have sex at all! the contractions were violent and was sure id go into labour there and then! but that was at 36 weeks with Lottie so we didn't do it

Well, he hasnt had a feed now for well over 48 hours.

I got him down to none in the day, and between 1 and 3 through the night, which went to 1 through the night, and now none for over 2 nights!
When he wakes, it is generally because his cover has come off and he is just whining. he is still waking at 3 am, but asking for juice and a cuddle!

Im not saying ive officially stopped, if he really wanted or needed it, i would offer, but I am really happy with how its gone

I wanted to feed him (in the end) until he was 2, and i am 2 weeks off that target, but the time is right.

My boobs are a little tender and a little achy, but i think this is more pregnancy related i think, as he was feeding less and less anyway.

I couldnt and wouldnt have probably got past through the 1st few days of breastfeeding if it wasnt for you girls, and to reach 2 years is just amazing, so i would like to say a very huge thankyou to each and every one of you for your support ! (God, im blubbing - must be hormones!!)

Well done Kay

awwwww well done!!! xxx

Well done - and now you have the confidence to do it all again xxx